It can be a comfortable way to get to know someone before meeting him or her in person.
If you’re considering turning to a dating website to meet new people, it’s important to remember a few safety tips as well as red flags to look out for.
For example, I referred to “darker times,” or mentioned that I saw a therapist regularly.
When I started volunteering at the Boston Area Rape Crisis Center as a medical advocate and then as a survivor speaker, I found ways to drop volunteer experiences into the conversation.
It’s the same place where you’ve started managing bank accounts, reading the news, and selling your old stuff: the internet.
If an address is required to register for a site, consider getting a post office box instead of using your home address.
Every survivor is different, and they each process trauma in a different way.
ATTN: spoke to three survivors of sexual assault, along with Melanie Carlson, the Client Services Coordinator at Doorways for Women and Families, a domestic violence shelter that also provides support to victims of sexual assault, over email about their advice on how to best support a survivor.
In college, one of my big motivations for sharing my story publicly at Take Back the Night was to share it with the entire universe of potential love interests all at once, so I didn’t have to tell it again and again every time I met someone new. Sometimes, the relationship fizzled out before I had a chance to share my story at all.
As the years went on, I experimented with many different tactics. On the one hand, I never felt like I wanted to hide my history of sexual violence from dates, just like I wouldn’t hide the death of a parent or a bad car accident.